It’s been quite some time. It feels weird, but I feel it’s time to give this another try.
I haven’t spoken on this issue, but I feel the urge to speak on it today. With police brutality against black Americans being highlighted by the media, it’s unfortunate that a life, regardless of race, is taken away from what could have possibly been a misunderstanding from both sides. It’s also unfortunate that we as black people only want to protest #BLACKLIVESMATTER when that life is taken away from an individual in a position of power. Does the care stop when black on black crime is still running rampant throughout America?
How can we as a race earn the respect of an entire nation when we don’t respect outselves? It’s all starts with us. It shouldn’t just be about “us.” It should be about “all.” #ALLLIVESMATTER! If America was united as it once was, things would get better. A lot of black Americans are stuck with the, “my ancestors were oppressed for 400 years,” mentality. We can change that. I’m not attempting to discredit or belittle what has happened in the past, but that is history. No one on this earth owes you anything.
You can’t live in this world and think it’s going to be given to you. Nothing in this life is free. It all starts with us. #ALLLIVESMATTER!
It’s becoming more and more of a chore to keep my blog updated and full of information that keeps a readers attention. I haven’t really had the time to actually sit and watch the happenings of this world in order to write about them.
It’s been a minute since I’ve really sat down and put something meaningful down. We’re almost at the halfway point of 2015 and A LOT has happened. It’s crazy how police brutality is being brought to the forefront of every news outlet there is. Before I get started, I would like to make it inherently clear that I in no way condone police brutality or provoking law enforcement. The only thing I am doing is voicing my opinion. The last time I checked, that was still a freedom I fought for and lost brothers for. If you have something to say, in MY forum, keep it to your damn self.
First off, let us look at what is shown in the media when it comes to police brutality. Usually we don’t see how the event transpired. All we see is the climax and the ending. In no way am I condoning the behavior of law enforcement, just asking to see all the facts before people make decisions to violently riot and destroying a city. I honestly feel the media plays a big role into how individuals react to certain situations. I’m sure by this point, if you’re a close-minded individual, you think that I am attempting to justify the actions of the “rotten apples” of law enforcement. It’s not that at all. I just want EVERYBODY to look at these events from a neutral position.
Does every stop by law enforcement have to end up with an individual being seriously injured or killed? What causes a law enforcement individual to go from “0-100” in a matter of seconds? Are law enforcement individuals allowed to pick and choose from a standard operating procedure as they please or when they feel the need to skip certain steps? Not all law enforcement individuals are bad, but there are a TON of bad apples in the bunch.
We as people have come to the conclusion that when a certain color individual is stopped it’s for reasons just to harass or to provoke. The way I see it is, if you are wrong and your are caught doing something wrong, own up to it so that the situation doesn’t end up escalating and putting you or the law enforcement individual in a position that could change your lives forever. As a law enforcement individual, more restraint should be used. Meaning, If you really feel that a situation is about to get out of hand, ensure that your dash camera is on or recording device is working properly so if the situation goes bad ad you feel that the use of force can be justified.
This post wasn’t meant to educate, but a way for me to some stuff off my chest regarding this whole police brutality issue. Like it or not, it’s all my opinion.
It’s been a while since I’ve had time to sit down and give my blog the attention it needs. I promise I’m going to get back on my grind. Since my absence, I’ve done a lot. I’ve taken a class on the “proper” way to write. I now have a little more confidence in my writing.
I’m putting something together in order to share what I’ve been up to during my absence. If you’ve been waiting on me to put something down, your wait is over. I’m back. For real this time.
It’s been a minute since I’ve really had a chance to actually write. My life has changed drastically since my last post. I’ve gone through a divorce. It wasn’t an ugly one, it just left me in a place of asking Why? The only thing she told me was, “I don’t love you anymore. It’s taken me 5 years to come to this conclusion and I want a divorce.” That really threw me for a loop. Yeah, we had our problems, but I never stepped out of my marriage; meaning I’ve never lusted/thought about, had sex (in any form), or attempted to get emotionally involved with another woman. That’s what I always told myself and I lived up to it. When I got married, I wanted to it to be it. I don’t believe in divorce. I believe that if she would have opened up to me, I’m sure we could have made it work. I assume that she was tired of making it work.
One big reason I wanted my marriage to work was my parents divorced when they reached 8 years. My father used to hit my mother and talk/have sex with another woman. That’s why I wanted my marriage to work. Things started to change towards the end of 2013. I did everything I could during the first part of 2014 to make it work. Suggested taking marriage classes and/or talking to a Minister. She didn’t want anyone on the outside knowing what was going on between us. After doing everything I could, I gave her the divorce she wanted. Before I signed those papers I made it very clear that it was her that wanted this divorce. Now we are working together to raise our 2 beautiful girls. I can say that since we now divorced she seems to be a little happier. I mentioned to her that it was good to actually see her smile and her happy. I have moved past the fact that it will never work with her again. One reason is because I have it set in my mind that I wouldn’t consider a relationship again. I really don’t want to go through those same problems all over again. I am happy and don’t want to get into another relationship at this time. I don’t want go through that getting to know another person, at least not right now.
I started my quest to further my education. I am attending Grantham University to get an Associates in Computer Science. Right now I am 44% complete. This is a big step in my life. To some, an Associate’s degree isn’t that spectacular, but taking small steps is better than not taking the step at all. My classes so far have been okay. I just completed my 1 semester. Classes for my second semester start on March 11th. I will be taking English Composition I and College Algebra. I’ve already completed American Government I, Intro to Computer Applications, and a class required by the University called Student Success. I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t intimidated by my next set of classes. I’m looking forward with just starting those classes.
In November of 2014 I won 2 tickets to attend the SEC Championship in Atlanta, Georgia. It was an awesome experience. When they first told me that I had won, I thought someone was playing with me or it was some type scam to get my credit card information. I finally realized it was real when they sent me a Dr. Pepper link to confirm that I really won. Other than that, I’m a student and a busy father. I decided not to coach this year, because I wanted to support my girls and give them all my attention. We will see how this goes this year. If I want to coach next year, it will be based on how this year works out. I need to get back in a groove to start writing again. I don’t want to force it, because I don’t want the blog to seem “fake.”
My Alabama Crimson Tide didn’t win the big dance this year, but it’s all good. Blake Sims did an awesome job leading that offense. It also helps to have one of the best receivers in College Football. Coach Nick Saban and Coach Lane Kiffin are 2 different coaches and have a different philosophy, but he jelled right in with the Alabama Coaching Staff. I’m looking forward to next season because I know that a lot of things are going to be changed and the team will have the right focus. Until the next post………#ROLLDAMNTIDE!
St. Louis native & New Orleans Saints TE Benjamin Watson composed this very well written statement and posted it to his Facebook page. In no way am I trying to take credit or trying to take away from Mr. Watson has already expressed. I felt the need to share it with you guys.
There is so much turmoil going on in St. Louis county and he addressed this issue from his point of view, how he sees his city and from a standpoint of possibly being in the position of Officer Darren Wilson. Mr. Watson very well written.
If you haven’t seen this, here are his thoughts:
“At some point while I was playing or preparing to play Monday Night Football, the news broke about the Ferguson Decision. After trying to figure out how I felt, I decided to write it down. Here are my thoughts:
I’M ANGRY because the stories of injustice that have been passed down for generations seem to be continuing before our very eyes.
I’M FRUSTRATED, because pop culture, music and movies glorify these types of police citizen altercations and promote an invincible attitude that continues to get young men killed in real life, away from safety movie sets and music studios.
I’M FEARFUL because in the back of my mind I know that although I’m a law abiding citizen I could still be looked upon as a “threat” to those who don’t know me. So I will continue to have to go the extra mile to earn the benefit of the doubt.
I’M EMBARRASSED because the looting, violent protests, and law breaking only confirm, and in the minds of many, validate, the stereotypes and thus the inferior treatment.
I’M SAD, because another young life was lost from his family, the racial divide has widened, a community is in shambles, accusations, insensitivity hurt and hatred are boiling over, and we may never know the truth about what happened that day.
I’M SYMPATHETIC, because I wasn’t there so I don’t know exactly what happened. Maybe Darren Wilson acted within his rights and duty as an officer of the law and killed Michael Brown in self defense like any of us would in the circumstance. Now he has to fear the backlash against himself and his loved ones when he was only doing his job. What a horrible thing to endure. OR maybe he provoked Michael and ignited the series of events that led to him eventually murdering the young man to prove a point.
I’M OFFENDED, because of the insulting comments I’ve seen that are not only insensitive but dismissive to the painful experiences of others.
I’M CONFUSED, because I don’t know why it’s so hard to obey a policeman. You will not win!!! And I don’t know why some policeman abuse their power. Power is a responsibility, not a weapon to brandish and lord over the populace.
I’M INTROSPECTIVE, because sometimes I want to take “our” side without looking at the facts in situations like these. Sometimes I feel like it’s us against them. Sometimes I’m just as prejudiced as people I point fingers at. And that’s not right. How can I look at white skin and make assumptions but not want assumptions made about me? That’s not right.
I’M HOPELESS, because I’ve lived long enough to expect things like this to continue to happen. I’m not surprised and at some point my little children are going to inherit the weight of being a minority and all that it entails.
I’M HOPEFUL, because I know that while we still have race issues in America, we enjoy a much different normal than those of our parents and grandparents. I see it in my personal relationships with teammates, friends and mentors. And it’s a beautiful thing.
I’M ENCOURAGED, because ultimately the problem is not a SKIN problem, it is a SIN problem. SIN is the reason we rebel against authority. SIN is the reason we abuse our authority. SIN is the reason we are racist, prejudiced and lie to cover for our own. SIN is the reason we riot, loot and burn.
BUT I’M ENCOURAGED because God has provided a solution for sin through the his son Jesus and with it, a transformed heart and mind. One that’s capable of looking past the outward and seeing what’s truly important in every human being. The cure for the Michael Brown, Trayvon Martin, Tamir Rice and Eric Garner tragedies is not education or exposure. It’s the Gospel. So, finally, I’M ENCOURAGED because the Gospel gives mankind hope.”
Here is the link to his Facebook page so you don’t think I’m plagiarizing or stealing his thoughts. https://m.facebook.com/BenjaminWatsonOfficial?fref=nf&_rdr