My Luck Starts To Turn Around NOW!

Last week was a rough week, but I’ve been through worse. I say it was rough, because it seems that way because as soon as we start to move in a positive direction it seems as if something always pulls us back which is SO demotivating.

I do what I can to let it NOT get to me, but it’s hard when you don’t have many options. I’ve even thought about options outside of “my” box, which is not a good thing. I’m just trying to get fresh ideas, maybe I need to take a new approach at this. Maybe it’s the way I’m doing things now or maybe the way I’m not doing things? Who knows? I don’t know. I’m not going to get into all the personal specifics here, because this is definitely not the place and it’s not that serious. If it gets that bad and I need to talk about it, I’ll just call you guys. I have the majority of you guys phone numbers anyway, so don’t worry about it. It’s all good. Right now, I need to occupy my time and keep myself busy.TROLL-TIDE-2

With the start of Softball season right around corner, I’ll be all good, because I can put all my focus into coming with a game plan for the girls and making this season a successful one. I WILL succeed at this. What I will not do is treat my kids like they are my step-children. I will treat my players like they are my own children. I’m not saying I’m going to be letting them get away with murder and letting them do what the hell they want to do, but take more of a fatherly approach towards the teaching portion of it. What I didn’t like from last year, is the All-Star Coach didn’t take the time to get to know my child’s name until the 4th damn practice. That’s Ridiculous. I understand that Coaches their own ways to coach and get points across, but some things don’t aren’t that complex. All that tells me is that you don’t give a damn. I want those parents to know that while their children are under my care that they are safe and will be taken care of. I don’t want them to think that I’m a damn pedophile, but if I were a parent and I was a concerned parent paying parent to the Recreation Department, like I was last year, that’s exactly how I would feel.

That’s just an approach I like to use. It worked while I was in the military and It works on my girls (of course) and it has worked previously, so, my approach is vetted and works!

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Children First, Self Second.

Screen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.25.43 PMScreen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.26.21 PMToday was the beginning of a new Softball Season in Long County. What’s crazy is that we have the talent, but every year we fail to capitalize, because “Toxic” coaches somehow infiltrate the system and forget why it is they coach, the Children.

Last year, somehow the teams were stacked with all the experienced and seasoned players on one team and the players that have never played the game on the other. Although we never beat the experienced and seasoned team, there is one thing I can say about our girls, they improved every time we played. They never improved. Our last game versus this team we almost won, but a bad call by them umpire changed the outcome of that game. At the end of the season, that coach felt he was entitled to coach the All-Star Team because of the 2 teams we had in the 10U age group, he had the most wins. Of course, since we had a new Recreation Director, he let it go. This year, that is not going to happen. During evaluations, we did grade hard, but that was our whole goal, to evaluate. We were not to coach, we are to do that once we get our team together.

We have the talent, but the parents feel that they know more than the coaches. That’s a big reason why I chose to coach this year. I gave our coaching staff last year a hard time and I felt that I could do a better job, so I will see. During the regular season, it wasn’t bad, because the coaches kept the children first, but during the All-Star portion of the season the coach all of sudden expected that the kids could coach themselves. Every practice was wasted and not used to teach or didn’t have a focus. We played 4 All-Star games and lost every single one. Our worst lost was 38-9. Instead of making adjustments, the coach just rolled with what he had. The problem just so happened to be between 2nd and 3rd Base, players from his original team. Every team we played capitalized off of that and hit into that gap almost every time at bat.

It wasn’t until our last game in the bottom of the 2nd inning, a parent with a wealth of experience made a change himself. Yes, he destroyed the power-base of the All-Star coach, but how do you think the kids felt when they were being beat 31-1? I’m glad this parent made the change, because we started to see positive results. I felt so bad for the kids. We had the talent, but if you don’t practice the right way, it’s not all of a sudden going to happen because you wish for it to happen. Not once did the All-Star coach say anything positive about the girls play, all he did was point out their mistakes. If you are down by a significant margin in the bottom of the 1st inning and you don’t make any changes, how is it the children’s fault?Screen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.27.55 PM

My goal this year is to teach the fundamentals of the game and mold each of my players into All-Stars, so when it does come down to it, it will make my decision difficult. I really believe that if we had a coach that cared about the kids last year, we could have made a lot of noise, but we embarrassed a lot parents and children. Some were so embarrassed that they are now stating that they will never play in this county again. What kind of example are you setting if all you do is point out the bad in what a child does? As a child, I know that I hated it. How about my hustle? How about my RBI or my sacrifice fly in order to put a point on the board? I’m sure that the kids don’t look that deep into the game, but me being the coach needs to pull out the positive and come up with a game plan to rid the team of all the negative plays.

Today, I saw a lot of new faces and a couple of old. Hopefully, once we get our program on the right track, the players that have gone abroad to play will eventually migrate back here. When it comes to coaching, I can be very emotional, especially if I feel that my kids aren’t being treated fairly (I feel they are my own children during that 60 minutes I have to spend with them, during practice and on game day). After the evaluations today, I see a lot of positive coming out of this program this year. The picture in this post, some people ask me why I keep it? I keep it as a reminder, it’s not about me, it’s about the children. The picture is a result of looking out for self instead of them. We will get this program back on track and will finally have parents knocking and kicking at the door to keep their kids here.

 

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Since it’s Friday Night and I know everybody is winding down from the holidays, I will do my best to keep this short.

Tomorrow is my first time coaching a Basketball Game. If you guys had to guess what the name of my team is, what would you say? Yep, you got it right, TIDE! I feel comfortable about what we put together as far as the fundamentals we taught before the holiday break. Hopefully, we don’t fall apart too quick. Yesterday, also today, I called and sent texts to the parents of my players to remind them of practice today. We arrived and the only players that were there on time were my two girls and Coach B’s daughter. About 15 minutes later another player comes strolling in. Right now we have 4 players so trying to come up with an Offensive scheme would be pointless. It is now 6:30 and here comes 3 more players. We only have 30 minutes to reinforce our Defense Scheme, which we ended up changing anyway. We practiced using a 2-3 Zone, but with the time we had tonight, we thought it would be better if we went with a 1-2-2 Zone. With the little time we had, we accomplished a lot. As the season progresses and we have an opportunity to practice, we will then have a chance to incorporate more plays based off of the 1-2-2 and 2-3 Zone.

 

Okay, let’s go ahead and get this out of the way; my Alabama Crimson Tide lost to the Oklahoma Sooners, the score was 45-31. It was unbelievable. I was shocked. We started out with some promise, but towards the middle of the second quarter and the second half, our Offensive Line did not protect A.J. McCarron which was more added pressure, the added pressure put on him by the media. They made a big deal of him playing his last game as the starting Quarterback for the Crimson Tide. I understand that their intentions were good, but he still a young man, but depending on him and not putting the weight on the rest of the team, as seen in the eyes of the nation, it was unfair. He was trying to hard to make plays happen when there wasn’t a play their. As a team, we had 5 Turnovers (3 Interceptions & 2 fumbles). He played the Quarterback position for Coach Nick Saban to the best of his ability. During his tenure as Quarterback at the University, he threw for an Alabama Crimson Tide historic 5,956, 49 Touchdowns and 8 Interceptions with an Overall Passer Rating (OQR): 66.7. He’s broken every single quarterback record for quarterback at the University. Another issue I have with a lot of Sports Analysts is they label him as a “Game Manager,” which during the 2011-2012 Season, that may have been true, but during the 2011 BCS National Title Game he showed that he could be much more than that. What’s crazy, out of all the awards, trophies, on top of the accomplishments, they are only going to remember everything he didn’t do well. A lot of people may not like him, but people need to keep in mind of EVERYTHING he has done and judge him off of those statistics, instead of his last and final game as the starting quarterback of the Alabama Crimson Tide; but that’s neither here nor there. I said it at the beginning of the season and I will say it until I can’t say it anymore, I love my damn Tide and always will. #ROLLDAMNTIDE! 

On to another note, this week couldn’t have ended any better. Why, you ask? On Thursday, I found a really, really, close friend that I had in High School. While we were in Junior High School and High School, I had the biggest crush on her. We started off as friends, then became best friends. I was stuck in the “friend-zone” for a long time, until I finally manned up and did what I had to do. Obviously, it didn’t work out, but life has different paths for everyone. I tried to make something happen before I went to my first duty station, but we really couldn’t do anything, because she was in College and I would be at Fort Bragg, NC. I was furious, but looking back on it now, she was very mature and made the right decision. I had hard feelings at the beginning, but as time passed holding on to that pain does nothing, but keep negative energy around me. I’ve learned and I am still learning how to stay and keep a positive attitude. Just her coming into my life again was crazy. The last 3 maybe 4 weeks have been pretty good. Out of all the negativity that happened during November and December, it’s good to have something positive happen to you. I am positive that things are only going to higher from this point. What I can honestly say and I am ecstatic about is that all of the negativity and everything going wrong, only brought my family and I together as a more cohesive unit.

I haven’t really been watching the news or reading any newspapers, well other than the sports sections, so I really don’t know what’s going on in the rest of the world. Once I get myself caught up on what’s going on in the world, then I MAY Blog about some news. The reasoning behind that decision is, I am attempting to broaden the range of this Blog so I am able to expand my vocabulary and overall become a better Blogger. We will see how that works out. I’m pretty confident in myself, but sometimes the way I write, I can sound like an uneducated person. I really don’t want dive into writing a book with my current vernacular. Of course, if anyone that follows this Blog and you have suggestions on how I can make my Blog better or challenge me with a specific topic to write about. I am able to take constructive criticism so don’t worry about any backlash.

I know I said that I would try my best to keep it short, but hey, I haven’t posted anything in a couple of days. I’ll have more tomorrow after we play our first Basketball game. I’m not going to critique them too much, but I will take some good notes. Ain’t nobody getting paid! I told the girls that no matter what the outcome of the game is, I just want them to have fun. This is Recreation Basketball, so I don’t need anyone trying to Michael Jordan. Just play your position, do your best to throw good passes, if you call for the ball you better catch it and the most important thing, HAVE FUN!!

 

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Today was very busy. I can’t wait to win this tournament so we can go to state! We have been practicing our pants off. Tomorrow is our last day of practice, so it’s going to be a little intense, just to get the heart rate up, a lot of stretching and going over the very basic skills of the game. Some of the kids are so ready to play, that they making mistakes that they usually wouldn’t make.

So let me tell you how smart I was on Monday, Tuesday and today. The Head Coaches son is really good, he’s short, but quick, he can put his foot on the ball, it’s crazy how he makes it look too easy. On Monday, at the end of practice he says to me, “Coach Jared, can you help me with something?” I said, “Sure, what’s up?” He says, 1 v 1. I said What? He wanted to play a game of 1 on 1. Like the smart and intelligent man that I am I said lets do it. He scores on me, gives me the ball, takes it and scores a goal. That happened 3 times. After that, I said I’m done. At this point there are 3 kids in the wings waiting for their turn to go one on one with Coach Jared. I have had to schedule the Coach Jared 1 on 1’s  before and after practice. My own kids make fun of me when I fall or the ball gets taken away from me. I tell them everyday, that I’m old and broken, but they are kids, they don’t care, all they want to do is play soccer. So I fight through the pain and play. It feel good to actually be active again.

The first day we started practicing, the kids really didn’t know what I was doing on the field. A lot of them only knew me as being the Head Coach of The Tide. So I really didn’t say anything, I just helped set up drills, take pictures and grab jackets for the kids if the want them. Now that has all changed. The first day I didn’t take my cleats. Once they saw me with cleats and gear to play, I started to earn their trust. Now everybody always asks me if they are doing the correct drill or kicking it right. I know to you may say, “What’s so special about that?” If you ever get the chance to take a group of kids, that have the skill to play, and your job is to bring it out of them. That is a great feeling.

Overall, I think that we will do well, but if we don’t win, me and the Head Coach explained to the kids not to worry about it. He told them that they are making history, because Long County has never played in an All-Star Tournament. This is their first Soccer All-Star Team. They can say that they were the first to do it and they have some cool jerseys to wear. I’m proud of my girls for taking soccer serious. Now I have the Coaching bug. After we finish the tournament then we have to start basketball season. I will be coaching the 9-10 girls and my girls are going to play. From one busy sport to another.

Those that know me, know that I suck at basketball, but I can coach it. I know how to teach defense, offense, the proper way to shoot and all the other fundamentals of the game. If I have a  question, I will be asking you guys. A lot of you may not know it, but the girls appreciate the support and wish that all of you could see them play in person. I will be sure to take video and great pictures of the game so I can share with you guys.

#ROLLDAMNTIDE

*Note: I want to apologize for the quality of the pictures, I was using my iPhone. Next time I will my camera.

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Today was my 1st soccer practice. It went pretty well. I have 11 players, 8 boys and 3 girls. My girls are on my team and haven’t played in 5 years, but they did a great job today. We have a lot of work to do before opening day. I didn’t play soccer in high school, but I coached last year so I have a little experience. The strengths on my team are: they play well together, follow directions and can dribble for short distances. My weaknesses are: stamina and endurance, ball control, kicking power and they all want to gravitate to the ball.
Today’s practice all I focused on was the fundamentals, dribbling, cutting and taking a shot at the goal and they did a lot of running. I plan on starting and ending every practice with a lap around the whole soccer field. If they don’t listen or get to rowdy then I’m going to make them take a lap. I know there are some soccer players out there, do you guys have any ideas for drills? Today we did back pedaling then sprinting, suicides, shuffling side to side and passing.
Overall for my first practice it went very well. If you guys have any suggestions or ideas I am open to them. This is my second year coaching. Last year I coach 13 & 14 year olds. This year I’m coaching 10 & 11 year olds. I can say that the younger group of kids is a lot easier to work with than teens.
I feel that this year will be different, because last year out of 10 games we won 1 and that was the last game of the year. Maybe they felt pity for us, who knows. As long as I continue to teach the fundamentals and we improve every practice, we will do well. Last year I was just thrown into the fire, but this year, I’m taking more of a coaching role. It feels pretty good. As I said before, if you have any suggestions for drills or plays, don’t hesitate to let me know.