It’s Been A Minute……..

IMG_1363It’s been a minute since I’ve really had a chance to actually write. My life has changed drastically since my last post. I’ve gone through a divorce. It wasn’t an ugly one, it just left me in a place of asking Why? The only thing she told me was, “I don’t love you anymore. It’s taken me 5 years to come to this conclusion and I want a divorce.” That really threw me for a loop. Yeah, we had our problems, but I never stepped out of my marriage; meaning I’ve never lusted/thought about, had sex (in any form), or attempted to get emotionally involved with another woman. That’s what I always told myself and I lived up to it. When I got married, I wanted to it to be it. I don’t believe in divorce. I believe that if she would have opened up to me, I’m sure we could have made it work. I assume that she was tired of making it work.

One big reason I wanted my marriage to work was my parents divorced when they reached 8 years. My father used to hit my mother and talk/have sex with another woman. That’s why I wanted my marriage to work. Things started to change towards the end of 2013. I did everything I could during the first part of 2014 to make it work. Suggested taking marriage classes and/or talking to a Minister. She didn’t want anyone on the outside knowing what was going on between us. After doing everything I could, I gave her the divorce she wanted. Before I signed those papers I made it very clear that it was her that wanted this divorce. Now we are working together to raise our 2 beautiful girls. I can say that since we now divorced she seems to be a little happier. I mentioned to her that it was good to actually see her smile and her happy. I have moved past the fact that it will never work with her again. One reason is because I have it set in my mind that I wouldn’t consider a relationship again. I really don’t want to go through those same problems all over again. I am happy and don’t want to get into another relationship at this time. I don’t want go through that getting to know another person, at least not right now. Grantham University Logo

I started my quest to further my education. I am attending Grantham University to get an Associates in Computer Science. Right now I am 44% complete. This is a big step in my life. To some, an Associate’s degree isn’t that spectacular, but taking small steps is better than not taking the step at all. My classes so far have been okay. I just completed my 1 semester. Classes for my second semester start on March 11th. I will be taking English Composition I and College Algebra. I’ve already completed American Government I, Intro to Computer Applications, and a class required by the University called Student Success. I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t intimidated by my next set of classes. I’m looking forward with just starting those classes.

2014 SEC Championship Game at the Georgia Dome in Atlanta, Georgia
The SEC Championship Game Final Score. Player of the Game: Blake Sims. Amari Cooper broke some SEC & Alabama records during this game.

In November of 2014 I won 2 tickets to attend the SEC Championship in Atlanta, Georgia. It was an awesome experience. When they first told me that I had won, I thought someone was playing with me or it was some type scam to get my credit card information. I finally realized it was real when they sent me a Dr. Pepper link to confirm that I really won. Other than that, I’m a student and a busy father. I decided not to coach this year, because I wanted to support my girls and give them all my attention. We will see how this goes this year. If I want to coach next year, it will be based on how this year works out. I need to get back in a groove to start writing again. I don’t want to force it, because I don’t want the blog to seem “fake.”

My Alabama Crimson Tide didn’t win the big dance this year, but it’s all good. Blake Sims did an awesome job leading that offense. It also helps to have one of the best receivers in College Football. Coach Nick Saban and Coach Lane Kiffin are 2 different coaches and have a different philosophy, but he jelled right in with the Alabama Coaching Staff. I’m looking forward to next season because I know that a lot of things are going to be changed and the team will have the right focus. Until the next post………#ROLLDAMNTIDE!

2014 SEC Championship Game in The Georgia Dome in Atlanta, Georgia
Entrance to The College Football Hall of Fame
2014 SEC Championship Game at The Georgia Dome in Atlanta, Georgia
Alabama Crimson Tide Runningbacks and Wide Receivers warming up.
2014 SEC Championship Game at The Georgia Dome in Atlanta, Georgia
Alabama Crimson Tide “Millionaire” Marching Band during Pre-game.
2014 SEC Championship Game at The Georgia Dome in Atlanta, Georgia
The Alabama Crimson Tide Offense during the 2014 SEC Championship Game.

        

 

 

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Children First, Self Second.

Screen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.25.43 PMScreen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.26.21 PMToday was the beginning of a new Softball Season in Long County. What’s crazy is that we have the talent, but every year we fail to capitalize, because “Toxic” coaches somehow infiltrate the system and forget why it is they coach, the Children.

Last year, somehow the teams were stacked with all the experienced and seasoned players on one team and the players that have never played the game on the other. Although we never beat the experienced and seasoned team, there is one thing I can say about our girls, they improved every time we played. They never improved. Our last game versus this team we almost won, but a bad call by them umpire changed the outcome of that game. At the end of the season, that coach felt he was entitled to coach the All-Star Team because of the 2 teams we had in the 10U age group, he had the most wins. Of course, since we had a new Recreation Director, he let it go. This year, that is not going to happen. During evaluations, we did grade hard, but that was our whole goal, to evaluate. We were not to coach, we are to do that once we get our team together.

We have the talent, but the parents feel that they know more than the coaches. That’s a big reason why I chose to coach this year. I gave our coaching staff last year a hard time and I felt that I could do a better job, so I will see. During the regular season, it wasn’t bad, because the coaches kept the children first, but during the All-Star portion of the season the coach all of sudden expected that the kids could coach themselves. Every practice was wasted and not used to teach or didn’t have a focus. We played 4 All-Star games and lost every single one. Our worst lost was 38-9. Instead of making adjustments, the coach just rolled with what he had. The problem just so happened to be between 2nd and 3rd Base, players from his original team. Every team we played capitalized off of that and hit into that gap almost every time at bat.

It wasn’t until our last game in the bottom of the 2nd inning, a parent with a wealth of experience made a change himself. Yes, he destroyed the power-base of the All-Star coach, but how do you think the kids felt when they were being beat 31-1? I’m glad this parent made the change, because we started to see positive results. I felt so bad for the kids. We had the talent, but if you don’t practice the right way, it’s not all of a sudden going to happen because you wish for it to happen. Not once did the All-Star coach say anything positive about the girls play, all he did was point out their mistakes. If you are down by a significant margin in the bottom of the 1st inning and you don’t make any changes, how is it the children’s fault?Screen shot 2014-03-04 at 11.27.55 PM

My goal this year is to teach the fundamentals of the game and mold each of my players into All-Stars, so when it does come down to it, it will make my decision difficult. I really believe that if we had a coach that cared about the kids last year, we could have made a lot of noise, but we embarrassed a lot parents and children. Some were so embarrassed that they are now stating that they will never play in this county again. What kind of example are you setting if all you do is point out the bad in what a child does? As a child, I know that I hated it. How about my hustle? How about my RBI or my sacrifice fly in order to put a point on the board? I’m sure that the kids don’t look that deep into the game, but me being the coach needs to pull out the positive and come up with a game plan to rid the team of all the negative plays.

Today, I saw a lot of new faces and a couple of old. Hopefully, once we get our program on the right track, the players that have gone abroad to play will eventually migrate back here. When it comes to coaching, I can be very emotional, especially if I feel that my kids aren’t being treated fairly (I feel they are my own children during that 60 minutes I have to spend with them, during practice and on game day). After the evaluations today, I see a lot of positive coming out of this program this year. The picture in this post, some people ask me why I keep it? I keep it as a reminder, it’s not about me, it’s about the children. The picture is a result of looking out for self instead of them. We will get this program back on track and will finally have parents knocking and kicking at the door to keep their kids here.