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Today was a low point for me this basketball season. Why? Because I let A LOT of bad calls get to me. I don’t mind taking the hit, but for you to continuously beat my girls up without it being fair across the board, then I will say what’s on my mind. As much as I love my Alabama Crimson Tide hats, I think I threw it against the wall at least three times, due to bad calls on the referees part. My girls were motivated to play today’s game, but by the second half were tired and beat up because the referees were favoring the Home team.

One of my best players follows her assignment across the basketball court and stops in front of her, is charged and MY player is called for the foul? Really? I could see if it was intentional, but my player gave the opposing player at least 4 feet put her hands up  and was charged and my team is penalized with a team foul. That fired me up but I let it roll off my back. Another ridiculous call was my player clearly stole the ball from their “best” player and is called for the foul. All she did was take the ball from the opposing player. How is that a foul? In what level of Basketball is that considered a foul. My players were hacked, jumped on, pushed down, but did they call a foul? No, sure didn’t. I fought tooth and nail for my girls. The straw the broke the camels back was the dude at the scorers table told me that I had to play #1 who happens to be my daughter, so of course I know how much playing time they get. I tell him that she just played a quarter so she isn’t going back in. The refs tell me that she has to go back in, myself, my other coach, my wife and other parents are telling this guy that #1 just came out of the game. He swears up and down that she didn’t. I walk away to let the other coach fight the battle.

Then I was like NO. I’m not backing down, I know what I feel is right so I’m going to fight until they kick me out of this gym. The referee walks over, the clock is still going, and I am pleading my case, at this point I’m screaming at the top of my lungs. The dude at the scorers table is trying to get all gangsta so that made me even more mad. I told him so you think I’m black, I a retard and don’t know how to manage my players? I wasn’t trying to turn it into a race issue, but I felt like I was being backed into a corner so I said what I felt like what was happening. I know that using the race card was childish and uncalled for and there is no excuse for it. I did apologize to the individual, but something has to give. What do you have to do to be treated with some type of respect? I don’t like to act like a “savage” or “what they think the stereotypical black man” acts like, but as soon as the other coach, who is a black female she gets whatever she wants. We have 3 games left this season and have to play this team 1 more time. Maybe it’s me as a coach or the way I approach the game, I don’t know. I’m so passionate about the game and making sure my players are being treated sometimes I let my emotions take over, but isn’t that what a Coach/Mentor/Leader is supposed to do? Protect their own? If that’s not the case then maybe Coaching isn’t my passion.

 

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So today was my second basketball practice. Our first practice went very well, because we had 9 out of 10 girls show up. Today, we had 5 show up, that’s including my 2 girls and the other coach’s daughter. I really hope that we have more girls show up at the next practice, because we can’t start touching on the basics of how to play defense or set up a successful offense with 5 girls. An advantage to having a small number of girls show up is, that we are able to spend 1 on 1 time with the girls as far as fundamentals go. My girls are the smallest on the team, so the plan was to play them in the 1st and 3rd Quarters; then have the bigger girls play in the 2nd and 4th Quarters. I’m not sure if we can even think that far ahead because we can’t depend on any of the other girls to come out.

I thought that this would be a lot easier than it’s starting out to be, but I am learning very quickly that this is going to take a lot of patience. It really doesn’t bother me if the girls don’t show up, because their parents already paid the registration fee, so it’s their money that was wasted. I’m not trying to be a sour puss, but a call to let me know that your child won’t be at practice would suffice. Since this is Recreation Basketball, every child HAS to be given the opportunity to play. I could go to the Recreation Director and complain, but what is that going to solve? Not a damn thing. If they don’t show up to practice, but can show up to a game, that’s something that I guess I’ll have to deal with. Next year, if my girls say anything about wanting to play Basketball, I am immediately going to shoot that dream down. Why? Because, I’m sure they won’t play unless I coach and “ain’t nobody got time for that!”

I will just stick to coaching soccer and maybe try my hand at coaching softball. I’m getting better at coaching or dealing with other peoples children, so as soon as I get my coaching style down, I will then become the Black Nick Saban of Southeastern Georgia. I will put my own “Process” together and have other coaches coming from the other side of the United States to find out how I do what I do. First, I am going to have to find my sport that I want to coach and get real serious about it. I don’t want to just win, I want to dominate. I know it’s only Recreation Sports, but I want to be “that” Recreation Coach that everybody wants their child to play for. I want the kids I coach to master the fundamentals, because if they master the fundamentals at the recreation level, then it will be a lot easier for them to grasp what they are being taught at the High School/College level of athletics, if that’s the route they choose to go.

I will only take it as serious as the kids. If they want to get better and they show me that they want to get better, then that’s when I will start going above and beyond. I know that I could possibly be that coach that  could have an impact on a child in a positive way, but why put everything I have into it, when their own parents won’t give me the same support? I’m still trying to figure out my coaching style, so when that hurdle comes I guess I will deal with it then. As for now, I will just learn as much as I can and find out how to get the best out of the kids that I coach.

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So as most of you already know that the soccer season for our county is done. Our All-Star Team played their hearts out. Though we lost, it was a win for our kids. The reason I say it was a win for our kids is because this is the first time that our county has EVER had a soccer All-Star Team. I told the kids that NO ONE can take that away from them. They were the 1st set of kids to do it, if you think about it, they made history. The team we played was against a neighboring county. The awkward thing about it is that the kids on that team, our All-Star Head Coach, coaches 7 of the 12 kids on a traveling team.

We were already at a disadvantage, but our kids didn’t care. The kids took every practice serious and learned a lot. I know I did. I’m going to take some his coaching points and add my own little touch to make it my own. He won’t be coaching next year, so if I get a good set of kids, we can do it big! Just kidding, I really believe that if you are playing any sport at the recreation level the focus needs to be on fundamentals. Once they have mastered the fundamentals, then that puts them a couple of steps ahead of other kids when and if they decide to play in middle school or even high school. Next year, I plan on coming up with my own version of  “The Process” something similar to what Coach Nick Saban has. You can hate him all you want, but he knows how to win. That’s what type of coach I want to be. I want to be able to take an inexperienced player and by the end of the of the season that player has made a 180 degree turn around, because he has mastered the fundamentals and has worked on the small things.

If I remember correctly, I think it was in maybe my 3rd or 4th posts I said that I was 33 and I still didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up. The reason I said that is because I hadn’t found my niche or found anything that I was passionate about. Now that has changed. I want to Coach, not just Coach, but teach individuals how to be better. I hope that doesn’t sound weird to anyone. Whenever I am Coaching, I have no worries and I am not thinking about anything else but the kids that are in front of me. It makes me feel pretty good to have a kid come up to you after the season is over and say to you, Coach Thank You for taking the time to teach me, I know that you volunteered and didn’t have to do it. You took the time out to teach us. I’ve mentioned this once before, that having a parent say Thank You for Coaching their child who had never played a sport in their life and now they are passionate about that sport and they want to play next year, but they only want to play if you are Coaching. It is pretty rewarding.

Last week I ate lunch with my girls. On Monday I ate with one, Tuesday I ate with the other then on Friday I ate with them both. On those three days that I was at the school, I had kids I had never ever seen or talked to walking up to me saying Hi Coach Jared. It felt kind of weird, but of course I returned the greeting. I think it is crazy when my daughters come home from school and they tell me that their friends are asking when is your dad coming back? They get mad, because their friends aren’t supposed to like their dad. On several occasions I’ve been told by the faculty that I would be a great substitute, but I think they were trying to subliminally plant that seed in my head, because I went to the board of education and asked for an application. I don’t know what it is, I think I do pretty well with children, even though I don’t like watching or interacting with other people’s kids during my free time. When I’m coaching that’s different, but if those same kids asked if they could come to my house, I would say NO!

Also, the principal said it would be a “shock and awe” moment for the children to see a male sub, because they usually treat the women any kind of way. It feels good to finally have something that I am passionate about. Before anyone makes any crude or stupid remarks, I like to teach children, not touch them. I’m no pedophile. I have A VERY STRONG HATE for those individuals. I felt the need to say that because I know there is an immature individual out there that is either thinking it or is brave enough to post a stupid-ass remark of that sort. Its crazy that I even have to mention that, because of the immaturity of a lot of so-called adults in today’s society. Now that I have found my passion, I am going to continue to do it and seriously get into it; get all required certifications to coach on different levels. I don’t even care if I were paid or not. My goal is to set a good example and do my best to have a positive impact on a child’s life for the better. Who knows, maybe I’ll coach the next Michael Jordan or Abby Wambach.

 

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Today was very busy. I can’t wait to win this tournament so we can go to state! We have been practicing our pants off. Tomorrow is our last day of practice, so it’s going to be a little intense, just to get the heart rate up, a lot of stretching and going over the very basic skills of the game. Some of the kids are so ready to play, that they making mistakes that they usually wouldn’t make.

So let me tell you how smart I was on Monday, Tuesday and today. The Head Coaches son is really good, he’s short, but quick, he can put his foot on the ball, it’s crazy how he makes it look too easy. On Monday, at the end of practice he says to me, “Coach Jared, can you help me with something?” I said, “Sure, what’s up?” He says, 1 v 1. I said What? He wanted to play a game of 1 on 1. Like the smart and intelligent man that I am I said lets do it. He scores on me, gives me the ball, takes it and scores a goal. That happened 3 times. After that, I said I’m done. At this point there are 3 kids in the wings waiting for their turn to go one on one with Coach Jared. I have had to schedule the Coach Jared 1 on 1’s  before and after practice. My own kids make fun of me when I fall or the ball gets taken away from me. I tell them everyday, that I’m old and broken, but they are kids, they don’t care, all they want to do is play soccer. So I fight through the pain and play. It feel good to actually be active again.

The first day we started practicing, the kids really didn’t know what I was doing on the field. A lot of them only knew me as being the Head Coach of The Tide. So I really didn’t say anything, I just helped set up drills, take pictures and grab jackets for the kids if the want them. Now that has all changed. The first day I didn’t take my cleats. Once they saw me with cleats and gear to play, I started to earn their trust. Now everybody always asks me if they are doing the correct drill or kicking it right. I know to you may say, “What’s so special about that?” If you ever get the chance to take a group of kids, that have the skill to play, and your job is to bring it out of them. That is a great feeling.

Overall, I think that we will do well, but if we don’t win, me and the Head Coach explained to the kids not to worry about it. He told them that they are making history, because Long County has never played in an All-Star Tournament. This is their first Soccer All-Star Team. They can say that they were the first to do it and they have some cool jerseys to wear. I’m proud of my girls for taking soccer serious. Now I have the Coaching bug. After we finish the tournament then we have to start basketball season. I will be coaching the 9-10 girls and my girls are going to play. From one busy sport to another.

Those that know me, know that I suck at basketball, but I can coach it. I know how to teach defense, offense, the proper way to shoot and all the other fundamentals of the game. If I have a  question, I will be asking you guys. A lot of you may not know it, but the girls appreciate the support and wish that all of you could see them play in person. I will be sure to take video and great pictures of the game so I can share with you guys.

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*Note: I want to apologize for the quality of the pictures, I was using my iPhone. Next time I will my camera.

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Since I have taken the backseat to be the Assistant Coach for the Long County All-Star Soccer team, I have learned a lot from the Head Coach. If your team loses, it’s not their fault that they lost. They were only doing what they were taught to do and they played exactly how they practiced. At the end of the regular season, my team did not win 1 single game. I will be the one who takes all the responsibility for an unsuccessful season, if you want to look at it as Wins/Loses; my players were only doing what I taught them. I had certain players that would only show up for game time. They didn’t feel the need to practice. So if we had a specific plan on how we are going to play that day, those players are not on the same sheet as the rest of the team, but I can truthfully say is that I didn’t have a choice. The reason I say that I didn’t have a choice was because it was my players that had experience playing soccer that decided that they didn’t want to show up; but playing for the Recreation Department, you have to be fair and everyone has to be given the right to play. Now that we are going to start our All-Star team push, all that is thrown in the wind.

The fair participation rule doesn’t apply on the All-Star team. If you don’t show that you want to contribute to the team, you can easily be replaced by an Alternate. Before I recommended my girls for the All-Star team, I asked myself and also talked to my wife if I was being fair. She told me that I was the Head Coach and if I felt that they had a chance to compete and contribute to being apart of the All-Star team, then it shouldn’t be a problem, because at the end of the day, I was the Head Coach. Another reason that helped with my decision was the Head Coach for the All-Star team wanted my daughters to play, though it was their first year playing serious soccer. They played when they were 4 & 5 years of age, but at that age, they aren’t really playing for a winner. They want all the players to get a chance to play and have fun. That’s the approach I took as a Head Coach this year. All I cared about was that my players gave me 100% and they had fun. If the players felt they gave 100% and the game was fun for them, then I said I accomplished my goal.

Now looking back on it, I wish I would have taken it a little more serious. I was thinking that no one is getting paid for this so why not let the kids have fun, right? The 3 Coaches of the U12 teams came together and submitted who we thought were the best players on our teams. So again, I asked myself, do I think my girls were better than other players on the team? I can truthfully say yes, because they never gave up and gave 110% every time they stepped on the soccer field. With my 2 daughters on the All-Star team, they are at a disadvantage, because they are smaller and weigh a lot less than some of the players on the All-Star team and that will be the same as we prepare to play other counties. Now that they are on the All-Star team, they are around a group of kids that love playing soccer and they know how to play the game. Being the Assistant Coach, I am able to work specifically with both of my daughters and make sure they understand what they are doing and why they are doing it.

At the end of day, I’m glad that I recommended the girls for the All-Star team, because they are around other good players and they are being taught the right fundamentals of the game. Yes, you can say that I did show a little favoritism, but it’s for their own good, because the Head Coach is focusing on the fundamentals. I know that they might not get the chance to start, but the Head Coach has told me that he would rather have a player that needs help polishing their fundamentals, rather than a player that has it set in his/her mind that the way they were taught to play the game is the right way or are willing to let something else other than school, take second place. Once you are recommended, the player and the parent sign a contract saying that they are willing to adhere to whatever the Head Coach deems necessary. The girls have a lot of potential and they not only practice on the days they are set to practice, but they go out of there way to make sure whatever we went over that day or in a previous practice; to make sure they can do what is asked if them, of course this is done after all their homework is done or during the weekend.

What sucks about our first tournament, it is single elimination. I think we will do fine with the talented players we have. Whether we win our first game or lose it, the girls and the rest of the players on the team are making history. How, you ask? This is the first year that Long County has put a Soccer All-Star team together. There has always  been a spot for them, but since Long County didn’t have a strong soccer program, they never filled that slot. Now hopefully the players that live in this county will stop going to neighboring counties to play and will see that Long County is finally taking the soccer program serious and hopefully this will keep the good players playing in their own county. I always thought that there was a “recipe” to win, but there isn’t. There isn’t a special drill that will make your players winners overnight. It’s all about fundamentals and how the players are coached. One thing that I can say that I took from the Alabama Crimson Tide Head Coach Nick Saban is “The Process.”

I know that I’ve already talked about The Process in one of my earlier posts, so I will briefly remind those who already know what it is and briefly explain it to those that don’t. In its most basic form, the Process is Nick Saban’s term for concentrating on the steps to success rather than worrying about the end result. Instead of thinking about the scoreboard, think about dominating the man on the opposite side of the line of scrimmage. Instead of thinking about a conference title, think about finishing a ninth rep in the weight room. Instead of thinking about graduating, think about writing a great paper for Intro to Psych. Pretty much all he is saying is worry about the little things and not so much on the end result, because if you are making sure that you do your job and make sure you’ve done all the little things the end result will be what everyone as a team wants and that is success.

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Last night we had our 7th soccer game against a team that we have played 3 times, we lost, but the score was only 2-1; the previous game the score was 6-0, so my team is improving, it may be slow, but we are making big improvements. After we played them last week, my daughter comes up to me and says, Daddy, Jimmy (not the kids real name) called me a B (Bitch). I thought I heard him say it from the sideline, but I brushed it off. Now that she told me and 3 of her teammates confirm it, it only solidified my suspicions. This same kid that called her a (B) bitch also lives in our neighborhood. So, me being the responsible parent I thought that I was being, I went to talk to his parents. His mother comes to the door and I introduce myself and explain to her the reason why I stopped by. She says to me, that it couldn’t be her son, because he doesn’t talk like that. I told her that I heard him say it and I was standing on the sideline and 3 of the players on her team confirmed her statement. She then brings her husband to the door, as if I was supposed to be scared or something, and I explain to him the same situation. He also says to me, it couldn’t have been Jimmy because he doesn’t talk like that around the house, but we will talk to him about it. Now I want you as the reader to put yourself in my position, you hear it from your daughter. You hear it from the sideline and from 3 of your players confirmed it, and you want me to believe that he didn’t say it? Come on people, I may be from Alabama, but I’m far from stupid.

Last night we played this same team, as I mentioned at the beginning of this post and this same kid calls her a bitch again. I yelled from the sideline so everyone could hear me, that if one more person on this soccer field calls my daughter out of her name again, we are going to have some issues. Well, last night, the father of the accused kid was there. He said I know he didn’t say it, because I didn’t hear him say it. Of course you’re not going to hear it, because your on the opposite side of the field of play, which is near my goal post. So what my daughter and 5 kids from my team are making all this up and it happens to be the same kid that called her a B (Bitch) last week. Again, me being a parent as well as a coach I went to the opposing coach and said to him that if your players continue to trash talk and use curse words to my players we are going to walk off the field, because that’s not how my players are taught to conduct themselves and they aren’t taught that way of play. He then calls the accused kid to the sideline and asks him if he called anyone on the field a B (bitch), and of course he replies, No I didn’t call anyone that. Of course he is going to deny it to his coach with his father standing right there. I said, I know what I heard and I believe what I heard and what 5 of my players confirmed.

After the game, all the players lined up and said good game and all that good stuff, then as I go to turn around to go to talk to my team, the coach from the opposing team stops me and says to the accused kid, don’t you have something to say to him? I look at the coach and look back at the kid, the coach says that I accused him of calling my daughter a Bitch, but you didn’t say it, so that coach owes you an apology. I looked at the coach in confusion and said, I don’t owe him a damn apology. I myself, nor did any of my players do anything wrong. The director of the Recreation department was out there, because every team that plays this team always has an incident like this or have the coaches yelling from the sideline, you better not let that girl beat you or if that girl beats you, I’m going to make you run a specific number of laps after the game or practice. First of all, unless I am wrong, I will not apologize to a child and Secondly, because you are the coach that doesn’t believe in teaching your players good sportsmanship, don’t get mad at me.

It was also frustrating that I could hear the trash talking from the opposing team and see them getting away with hand balls and tripping, but as soon as one of my players did it, the infraction was immediately brought up by one of the opposing coaches. I said to myself okay, you want to play like that I can play that game also. If I had to walk to the middle of the field to stop the play for my players to get fair treatment that’s exactly what I did, because I thought it was the right thing to do. I did lose my temper, because I let this piece of crap coach get to me, but at the end of the game, I did apologize to my players for acting out and that we will not play like they do.

At the end of the day, we are doing this for the children. No one is being paid and no one is going to have a scout come from some Division 1 school come to scout a 10 or 11 year old. What I told my team at the beginning of the season, that when it gets to the point when you are not having fun anymore then we will not continue to play. Don’t think that I am not telling my kids to play aggressive, but there has to be a line where coaches need to get involved and make sure that the game is played fairly. I told my team that we have to play these guys one more time before the season ends and if they continue to play the way they are playing, we are walking off the field. I told my kids that by us walking off the field we are not being cowards or giving up, it’s to show that coach and his players that the way they play is wrong. My oldest daughter fell and before she could get up one of the opposing players was tripped by her leg and the referee called a penalty on my daughter for tripping. I almost lost my mind. I’m sure you guys have gotten the point that I am trying to get you to see. It’s not about the parents or the coaches, it’s all about the children. Just let them have fun.

 

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