Mid Ka Mid Ah Boqol Oo Siddeed Iyo Toban

As most of you already know, I am coaching a Recreation Basketball team. Before the season started I asked for some advice. Some good friends of mine gave some great advice. The crazy thing is what I “attempted” to teach them was what I thought was pretty easy. A 2-3 Zone for Offense and a 1-2-2 Zone for Defense. Well, it never  worked. Why? I have NO CLUE. Right now, our record is 0-3. As I mentioned in a previous post is that the parents thought the job was easy. They let the girls show up when they wanted to and  wouldn’t let me or the other coach know anything. After our second game, a couple of the parents were running their mouths saying that we were not teaching the girls the basics of the game. First of all, how in the hell am I to teach them the basics if they are not there? Secondly, If I teach them one thing and you don’t like it, you change it then try to blame it on me? GTFOH! So at the next practice, I let the parents and whoever else wanted to coach do their thing. Do you know the score of our last game? 30-0. All of a sudden they wanted me to coach and said what I’m teaching the girls was working. The girls were still confused about who plays where and what they are supposed to do. I talked it over with the other coach and tried to come up with why it wasn’t working.

Since an easy Offense and Defense was not working, I looked online and read some articles. I came across and article talking about a very basic Triangle Offense and using an 2-3 or 3-2 (Extended) Zone Defense. They made it seem so easy. I went to YouTube and watched a couple of videos, if you don’t know what I’m talking about (It’s the same Offense that the 91-94, 95-98 Bulls and L.A. Lakers Won their Championships). I broke it down so that I could somehow implement the Triangle into my Offense and the 2-3/3-2 Extended into my Defense. Why did they understand this better than what I previously tried to teach them? This new Offense and Defense is a LOT harder, but it’s easier for the girls to comprehend. It amazes me that every time I call it, it happens flawlessly. I then thought if they can learn a basic Triangle Offense then lets try a 4 in 1 Offense. I explained it to them, showed them a diagram, walked them through it and that was history. We now have 2 Offenses and 2 Defenses we can use. We haven’t had a chance to try them on another team, but I feel VERY confident that we are going to do some damage. Another advantage we’ve had is we already know how the teams we face play. For example, our sister team, always sends a double team to my point guard as soon as she crosses half court, which is an advantage for us, because its 4 on 3 down low.

Never really playing any organized basketball, I’ve learned a hell of a lot. I’m thinking about Coaching Basketball next season. I don’t know. I’m waiting for Soccer to roll around, because I have something to prove. My first and Second Seasons I was embarrassed because I didn’t understand the game, but since I was the assistant coach for the All-Star team last season, I learned SOOOOOO much. My team is going to be “that” team you don’t want to play. I’ve also done a lot of research on my own and tried to sharpen my skills so that I am not only able to explain, but show them how it should be done. Yeah, I have a messed up foot, but I WILL NOT let that be an excuse this year. Hopefully after I get my new big toe joint and hardware I can run. Who knows?!! I’m excited. If all works out and I become not just a good coach, but a Great Coach, maybe I’ll try to make a living out of it. We were supposed to have a game tonight, but it was cancelled. Our next game is on Thursday so we will see how successful of a coach I really am. I will keep you guys updated.


One Twelve

It’s been almost a week since my last post. Why? I have been really frustrated lately. The reason why is because I am putting my all into this basketball team, but parents think they can get the players to practice when they want to and when the outcome of a game is a loss, you want to get mad at me? No, it’s not my fault. You, the parent, set your child up for the loss, because, you the parent, don’t think that practice is important. You, the parent, automatically thinks that because I am the coach, I am supposed to be able to give them awesome basketball skills. It takes practice. Whether you want to believe it or not, Practice is the key.

Tonight, we lost our 3rd straight game. The score at the end of the game was 30-0. A blowout! I didn’t want to take Recreation Basketball that serious, but it looks like I am going to have to. Parents are looking at me, like it’s my fault. I can say that after our 2nd loss, there was a certain parent and sister of a teammate that thought they had all the answers, so during that practice, I or the other Coach didn’t do a thing. I let the parent and the sister get out there and embarrass themselves. Everyone that is on the outside looking in, thinks that this is so easy. Yes, it’s teaching the basics and fundamentals, but if you can’t get the same individuals to come out for practice, how in the world are you supposed to make sure that they understand the very basics of the game? How am I, their Coach, supposed to ensure that they are able to be fundamentally sound, if you, the Parent, don’t make them come to practice?

Now, I am going to look out for the kids. I don’t want them to lose anymore, so I am going to take control while this is still the beginning of the season. The Parents may not like it, but they  will see the result, if they don’t like it then, they can pull their child off the team and go play elsewhere. This may sound like I am complaining, if it sounds that way, then yes I am. I am tired of being the one that takes the blame for it all when I don’t have the support of the parents. If I did have the full support of all the parents and not just a select few, then, I’m sure the outcome would be a whole lot different. If the way I plan on running Offense and Defense doesn’t work out, then I will let the kids play the way they want. All I want is for them to have fun, but I will not let them be embarrassed by every team we face. I don’t want my girls to experience that and I will not let that happen. I care about these kids and I am going to show them instead of just telling them that I care. Its time to show and prove.

Every time I coach a sport, at the end of that season, I always say that I won’t coach again. I like Coaching; the part I don’t like is when the parents think they know better than you do. If that was the case, why didn’t you volunteer to coach? If you have so much knowledge and you can teach your players to be the Michael Jordan of that sport, why didn’t you volunteer? It’s all good. I WILL get this together, whether the parents like it or not. I will not let my team continue to be a punching bag of our league. It’s time to show everyone that we can play basketball. Yes, we don’t have many players that have ever played the game, but we won’t let that be an excuse. We will start to win and cause these teams to come up with a scheme to beat us. Its time for the TIDE to show that we may not have the experience, but we ARE better than you are.



Cent Neuf

As promised, I said that I give everyone an update on our 1st Basketball game.

  • The Mustangs vs. The Tide (of course, you already know whose team this is!)
  • Gametime: 1200
  • I was supposed to have a total of 10 players. 1 decided she no longer wanted to play; 1 went out of town, but I didn’t get this information until the day of the game. So I had a total of 9 players ready to play.
  • Offensive Scheme: 1-2-2/ Defensive Scheme: 1-2-2 or 2-3
  • Score: The Tide: 2 vs. The Mustangs: 8

Myself and the other Coach put out to all of our players they need to arrive at the gym in uniform ready to take pictures promptly at 1130. Good thing that we didn’t have to jump right into pictures, because it took me about 15 minutes to gather my team. Once I got them together we finally started taking pictures. After pictures we gave them a chance to stretch and I then announced the starting lineup. We were the Home team for this game so we took our seats. We told the girls to continue to drink water until they took the U8 goals down, so we could warm up. They finally got our goal cleared and we had about 2 minutes to do some layups. The referees call the coaches to the scorers table and says,”The main thing is for the girls to have fun. If I see they can dribble and they walk, I will call traveling, but this is a learning process, so I will kind of coaching as I referee.” All of the Coaches were on board.

The game started and I guess everything that the referee had just put out went out the window. I have a team that has 2 players that have ever played ANY type of Basketball. I felt like every time one of my players touched the ball, the referee was calling something, a foul, double-dribbling or traveling. If the opposing team shot the ball and one of my taller players pull the rebound down, like 4 of their players would swarm her and as soon as she starts to bounce the ball to get away from traffic, one of the other players would trip her up, then immediately the referee would call traveling. I was pretty upset. I even went and talked to the Recreation Director to ask where the hell do these referees come from and is it going to be like this for the rest of the season. He said he doesn’t know, all he knows is the association that they work for are in charge of the referee duties in our district.

I had 1 player foul out and 1 with 4 fouls. It seemed like no one was keeping track of their fouls, but it’s whatever. Next game, I am most definitely going to keep track of my own player and team fouls. It was ridiculous. There were only 10 points scored the whole game. We had 2 and you can calculate how much the other team had.

Now, let me explain to you why, it went this way. First of all, whenever we practice, we only use half court, which is good, but how in the world are the girls going to get the concept of transitioning from Offense to Defense and vice-versa playing only on half court? Another thing that the parents realized, is that practice is important. Some of the girls wouldn’t show up so whatever we go over at practice is a foreign language to some of them. Before I gave my last pep talk to my team, the parents were asking me questions on why certain things went certain ways and telling me what the girls needed to improve on, which I agree, but how can that happen if your child does not show up.

Today, was a wake up for the parents. If they want their children to get better or even learn the fundamentals of the sport they have to practice. There is no way in the world that you can get better without practice. Another thing, how are we going to get better practicing 1 maybe 2 days a week for an hour, with only 2 basketballs that are under-inflated on a court that has NOOOOO traction? It’s been a bumpy ride so far, but hopefully myself and the other Coach will get this train on the right track.

One thing that I will not let happen is for the parents to yell at the players, because they are not doing something right. I guess another thing that they don’t  realize is that this is Recreation Basketball. Our goal is to teach them the fundamentals and for them to have fun. I really hope it doesn’t to that point, but if it does, then I will have the Recreation Director escort that parent out of the gym. I will not yell or treat these girls like crap, just because that’s what the parents want. That’s not how you teach children that don’t really have the concept in the first place. I don’t raise my voice or call my children names and no parent will do their child like that while they belong to me for that hour or whatever. I know how to teach, we just don’t have the facilities to do it. We have some outdoor courts, but the parents don’t want to use it, because of the weather.

If they plan on bombarding me with stuff that we need to improve on, then we will move a couple of practices outside, then maybe we are able to reinforce the fundamentals we teach. That’s if I have some punk-ass parents coming at me sideways. I hope it doesn’t come to that point. I want the girls to have fun. That’s my mission, but if things start to get out of hand and the parents are out of control then I will pull my girls from the team and will not coach. It’s all about fun. Once it stops being fun for the kids, then they will not want to play anymore.

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Since it’s Friday Night and I know everybody is winding down from the holidays, I will do my best to keep this short.

Tomorrow is my first time coaching a Basketball Game. If you guys had to guess what the name of my team is, what would you say? Yep, you got it right, TIDE! I feel comfortable about what we put together as far as the fundamentals we taught before the holiday break. Hopefully, we don’t fall apart too quick. Yesterday, also today, I called and sent texts to the parents of my players to remind them of practice today. We arrived and the only players that were there on time were my two girls and Coach B’s daughter. About 15 minutes later another player comes strolling in. Right now we have 4 players so trying to come up with an Offensive scheme would be pointless. It is now 6:30 and here comes 3 more players. We only have 30 minutes to reinforce our Defense Scheme, which we ended up changing anyway. We practiced using a 2-3 Zone, but with the time we had tonight, we thought it would be better if we went with a 1-2-2 Zone. With the little time we had, we accomplished a lot. As the season progresses and we have an opportunity to practice, we will then have a chance to incorporate more plays based off of the 1-2-2 and 2-3 Zone.


Okay, let’s go ahead and get this out of the way; my Alabama Crimson Tide lost to the Oklahoma Sooners, the score was 45-31. It was unbelievable. I was shocked. We started out with some promise, but towards the middle of the second quarter and the second half, our Offensive Line did not protect A.J. McCarron which was more added pressure, the added pressure put on him by the media. They made a big deal of him playing his last game as the starting Quarterback for the Crimson Tide. I understand that their intentions were good, but he still a young man, but depending on him and not putting the weight on the rest of the team, as seen in the eyes of the nation, it was unfair. He was trying to hard to make plays happen when there wasn’t a play their. As a team, we had 5 Turnovers (3 Interceptions & 2 fumbles). He played the Quarterback position for Coach Nick Saban to the best of his ability. During his tenure as Quarterback at the University, he threw for an Alabama Crimson Tide historic 5,956, 49 Touchdowns and 8 Interceptions with an Overall Passer Rating (OQR): 66.7. He’s broken every single quarterback record for quarterback at the University. Another issue I have with a lot of Sports Analysts is they label him as a “Game Manager,” which during the 2011-2012 Season, that may have been true, but during the 2011 BCS National Title Game he showed that he could be much more than that. What’s crazy, out of all the awards, trophies, on top of the accomplishments, they are only going to remember everything he didn’t do well. A lot of people may not like him, but people need to keep in mind of EVERYTHING he has done and judge him off of those statistics, instead of his last and final game as the starting quarterback of the Alabama Crimson Tide; but that’s neither here nor there. I said it at the beginning of the season and I will say it until I can’t say it anymore, I love my damn Tide and always will. #ROLLDAMNTIDE! 

On to another note, this week couldn’t have ended any better. Why, you ask? On Thursday, I found a really, really, close friend that I had in High School. While we were in Junior High School and High School, I had the biggest crush on her. We started off as friends, then became best friends. I was stuck in the “friend-zone” for a long time, until I finally manned up and did what I had to do. Obviously, it didn’t work out, but life has different paths for everyone. I tried to make something happen before I went to my first duty station, but we really couldn’t do anything, because she was in College and I would be at Fort Bragg, NC. I was furious, but looking back on it now, she was very mature and made the right decision. I had hard feelings at the beginning, but as time passed holding on to that pain does nothing, but keep negative energy around me. I’ve learned and I am still learning how to stay and keep a positive attitude. Just her coming into my life again was crazy. The last 3 maybe 4 weeks have been pretty good. Out of all the negativity that happened during November and December, it’s good to have something positive happen to you. I am positive that things are only going to higher from this point. What I can honestly say and I am ecstatic about is that all of the negativity and everything going wrong, only brought my family and I together as a more cohesive unit.

I haven’t really been watching the news or reading any newspapers, well other than the sports sections, so I really don’t know what’s going on in the rest of the world. Once I get myself caught up on what’s going on in the world, then I MAY Blog about some news. The reasoning behind that decision is, I am attempting to broaden the range of this Blog so I am able to expand my vocabulary and overall become a better Blogger. We will see how that works out. I’m pretty confident in myself, but sometimes the way I write, I can sound like an uneducated person. I really don’t want dive into writing a book with my current vernacular. Of course, if anyone that follows this Blog and you have suggestions on how I can make my Blog better or challenge me with a specific topic to write about. I am able to take constructive criticism so don’t worry about any backlash.

I know I said that I would try my best to keep it short, but hey, I haven’t posted anything in a couple of days. I’ll have more tomorrow after we play our first Basketball game. I’m not going to critique them too much, but I will take some good notes. Ain’t nobody getting paid! I told the girls that no matter what the outcome of the game is, I just want them to have fun. This is Recreation Basketball, so I don’t need anyone trying to Michael Jordan. Just play your position, do your best to throw good passes, if you call for the ball you better catch it and the most important thing, HAVE FUN!!





九十 四

So today was my second basketball practice. Our first practice went very well, because we had 9 out of 10 girls show up. Today, we had 5 show up, that’s including my 2 girls and the other coach’s daughter. I really hope that we have more girls show up at the next practice, because we can’t start touching on the basics of how to play defense or set up a successful offense with 5 girls. An advantage to having a small number of girls show up is, that we are able to spend 1 on 1 time with the girls as far as fundamentals go. My girls are the smallest on the team, so the plan was to play them in the 1st and 3rd Quarters; then have the bigger girls play in the 2nd and 4th Quarters. I’m not sure if we can even think that far ahead because we can’t depend on any of the other girls to come out.

I thought that this would be a lot easier than it’s starting out to be, but I am learning very quickly that this is going to take a lot of patience. It really doesn’t bother me if the girls don’t show up, because their parents already paid the registration fee, so it’s their money that was wasted. I’m not trying to be a sour puss, but a call to let me know that your child won’t be at practice would suffice. Since this is Recreation Basketball, every child HAS to be given the opportunity to play. I could go to the Recreation Director and complain, but what is that going to solve? Not a damn thing. If they don’t show up to practice, but can show up to a game, that’s something that I guess I’ll have to deal with. Next year, if my girls say anything about wanting to play Basketball, I am immediately going to shoot that dream down. Why? Because, I’m sure they won’t play unless I coach and “ain’t nobody got time for that!”

I will just stick to coaching soccer and maybe try my hand at coaching softball. I’m getting better at coaching or dealing with other peoples children, so as soon as I get my coaching style down, I will then become the Black Nick Saban of Southeastern Georgia. I will put my own “Process” together and have other coaches coming from the other side of the United States to find out how I do what I do. First, I am going to have to find my sport that I want to coach and get real serious about it. I don’t want to just win, I want to dominate. I know it’s only Recreation Sports, but I want to be “that” Recreation Coach that everybody wants their child to play for. I want the kids I coach to master the fundamentals, because if they master the fundamentals at the recreation level, then it will be a lot easier for them to grasp what they are being taught at the High School/College level of athletics, if that’s the route they choose to go.

I will only take it as serious as the kids. If they want to get better and they show me that they want to get better, then that’s when I will start going above and beyond. I know that I could possibly be that coach that  could have an impact on a child in a positive way, but why put everything I have into it, when their own parents won’t give me the same support? I’m still trying to figure out my coaching style, so when that hurdle comes I guess I will deal with it then. As for now, I will just learn as much as I can and find out how to get the best out of the kids that I coach.



Today was very busy. I can’t wait to win this tournament so we can go to state! We have been practicing our pants off. Tomorrow is our last day of practice, so it’s going to be a little intense, just to get the heart rate up, a lot of stretching and going over the very basic skills of the game. Some of the kids are so ready to play, that they making mistakes that they usually wouldn’t make.

So let me tell you how smart I was on Monday, Tuesday and today. The Head Coaches son is really good, he’s short, but quick, he can put his foot on the ball, it’s crazy how he makes it look too easy. On Monday, at the end of practice he says to me, “Coach Jared, can you help me with something?” I said, “Sure, what’s up?” He says, 1 v 1. I said What? He wanted to play a game of 1 on 1. Like the smart and intelligent man that I am I said lets do it. He scores on me, gives me the ball, takes it and scores a goal. That happened 3 times. After that, I said I’m done. At this point there are 3 kids in the wings waiting for their turn to go one on one with Coach Jared. I have had to schedule the Coach Jared 1 on 1’s  before and after practice. My own kids make fun of me when I fall or the ball gets taken away from me. I tell them everyday, that I’m old and broken, but they are kids, they don’t care, all they want to do is play soccer. So I fight through the pain and play. It feel good to actually be active again.

The first day we started practicing, the kids really didn’t know what I was doing on the field. A lot of them only knew me as being the Head Coach of The Tide. So I really didn’t say anything, I just helped set up drills, take pictures and grab jackets for the kids if the want them. Now that has all changed. The first day I didn’t take my cleats. Once they saw me with cleats and gear to play, I started to earn their trust. Now everybody always asks me if they are doing the correct drill or kicking it right. I know to you may say, “What’s so special about that?” If you ever get the chance to take a group of kids, that have the skill to play, and your job is to bring it out of them. That is a great feeling.

Overall, I think that we will do well, but if we don’t win, me and the Head Coach explained to the kids not to worry about it. He told them that they are making history, because Long County has never played in an All-Star Tournament. This is their first Soccer All-Star Team. They can say that they were the first to do it and they have some cool jerseys to wear. I’m proud of my girls for taking soccer serious. Now I have the Coaching bug. After we finish the tournament then we have to start basketball season. I will be coaching the 9-10 girls and my girls are going to play. From one busy sport to another.

Those that know me, know that I suck at basketball, but I can coach it. I know how to teach defense, offense, the proper way to shoot and all the other fundamentals of the game. If I have a  question, I will be asking you guys. A lot of you may not know it, but the girls appreciate the support and wish that all of you could see them play in person. I will be sure to take video and great pictures of the game so I can share with you guys.


*Note: I want to apologize for the quality of the pictures, I was using my iPhone. Next time I will my camera.

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