When will we as Americans start to recognize each other as Americans instead of a Social Class, Race, Ethnicity or any other category you can dream up? From what I’ve seen, the only time the United States becomes “United,” it takes a major event such as a terrorist attack, to happen on our front porch. It’s very frustrating to hear people from all walks of life complain about how this race/ethnicity is this way or a certain religion is bad because of this or that. Instead, how about we say, we as Americans have all types of issues, what can be done to fix them? Whether you believe it or not, or are willing to accept it, we are all Americans. Yes, I know there are those that are American through a process of paperwork and not by birthright, but why are we all treated differently?

A lot of individuals are willing to sacrifice their lives just to escape one way of living so they can achieve the “American Dream,” meaning, they want what seems to be a better life and also have the right to be able to make their own decisions and so forth. I also realize that there are a large number of illegal immigrants in America (Different Topic). I am not going to sit here and tell you that at some point in my life that I have never been prejudice against another race or religion of certain people because of an irreversible act of Terrorism. I will admit and I am not ashamed to say that after the individuals that were responsible for the attacks on the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001, and they were identified that I contained a strong hate for people of the Middle-Eastern Decent/Muslim faith. That is a very ignorant way of thinking, I know, but I wasn’t or didn’t want to be educated at the time, because I thought it was the right thing to do. It took me having to be deployed to Iraq/Afghanistan and forced to interact with some common individuals in those countries to realize that you can’t blame an entire religion or a group of people because they have a couple of “misguided” children. I won’t take all the blame for this hatred either, some of that hate can be attributed to the way the media portrayed these people at that time. It took me to see with my own eyes there are people in these countries that don’t have a radical way of thinking and they don’t wake up everyday with the thought of killing Americans or Foreign Troops on their mind.

America has come a long way since the days of slavery and segregation, but there is still a large number of ethnic groups (not just Black) who think that they are owed something by White Americans. I didn’t realize these ethnic groups are being forced to America in large numbers, packed to the brim of a ship for months on end with barely enough food and water; I didn’t realize these ethnic groups are still being beat up, attacked by dogs, deterred by the National Guard because they want to attend a certain University for higher learning. I understand what individuals in that era had to endure and I am not saying forget about it, how about we honor those individuals by coming together, so as they look down on us, they will be able to say, “I now understand why I had to endure pain and suffering; so the future America doesn’t have to.” It’s no longer a Race, Ethnic or Social Class thing, it’s an America thing. We all struggle with the lack of proper education, lack of motivation to get a job, lack of respect for our elders, lack of regard for law enforcement/authority in general, etc. I could go on, but what is that going to do other than make you wish that I would shut up? Instead of segregating a certain race or ethnic group, how about we work together as 1 group, Americans, and tackle this problem together. If we continue to separate ourselves, this process will happen continuously.

That also rings true when we set out to the polls to elect our officials of Government, whether it be City, County, State or Federal Levels. If we as Americans are not taking advantage of our right to vote and are voting for the right reasons then it’s our fault that the individual we elect does not meet the expectations set forth. I honestly think, no matter which party is in control, someone, somewhere is still going to complain. Its very hard to make everyone happy. I’m sure not many Black Americans will admit to this, but I didn’t vote for President Barak Obama solely because he was black, I voted for him in the 2008 Presidential Election, because I thought he was going to finally get this country back on track. I had hope and believed in what he said. It’s now 2014 and it feels like we are “marching in place,” because the same individuals we elected (The House, Senate and Congress) seem to want to pacify the rest of the world instead of making sure the people in its country are taken care of, but that’s a whole different issue. Don’t get me wrong, I do understand we have to uphold our foreign relations, because that’s just how it works, but I don’t agree with making another country happy with the sacrifice of innocent men and women. (That’s an entirely different issue; don’t get me going!)

In order for America to fix itself, we as Americans need to stop thinking of “self “and start thinking of “us.” There is a small percentage of individuals that have my way of thinking and I am sure any changes of this magnitude will not be seen in my lifetime, hopefully for my children. Maybe they will get it right. There are going to be those that read this and will be able to take bits and pieces from this; it’s a start. Now only if we could get our elected officials on the same page. Its time for America to take back America and stop letting an individual think for us. We all know what we want, we just need to stop depending on someone else to try to figure out what it is.





Last week and this past weekend was rough. Why? Because, I let fake individuals and haters get under my skin. Those who know me, know I am a pretty calm person and I takes a lot to get me upset. I will quickly explain what happened.

On November 19, 2013, I indicated to friends, I would not mention anything about Collegiate Sports. My reason for even making a statement like that is because I felt that I was being attacked whenever I spoke my mind about College Sports. Before the start of the season, of course myself and friends were going back and forth about who’s team was better and all that stuff dudes talk about. College Football started and punches were being thrown (not literally), just jaw-jacking. Mid-Season arrived and the team I supported held the #1 Spot. Individuals that usually don’t talk College Football started to make comments, I ignored it, then they started to get personal. Sending messages about how they wish that players from different teams would die or a certain coach would fall of the face of the earth. I didn’t entertain it, deleted the messages. I then did a self check and thought to myself that maybe it’s me, so I backed off a little. It seemed as if when I turned my volume down, they turned theirs up. I started to question myself and even talked to my wife about it. I know a lot of you would not let it bother you, but I’m the type of person that likes to interact with friends over social media. I then put myself on a “Collegiate Sport Time-out.”

I vowed not to say a word about ANY Collegiate Sport or any school, academy or institution that had to do anything with Collegiate sports. Going back to my example, I completely turned my volume off, once I was silenced, EVERYBODY became an expert on College Football. Sending punches my way every chance they had. I have a “Circle of Friends” that I can talk about Collegiate Football, but when others see our banter going back and forth they think it’s okay for them to jump in. So on December 7th and 8th, I let everybody have it. It was very disrespectful, but that was the way I felt at that moment. I felt there was no other way to do it. What did happen was, no one said a word. I then asked myself was it worth it? Truthfully, if I had to do it over again, I would do it the same way, but instead of disrespecting close friends and family, I would single out the individuals that did the talking.

I want to take this time to apologize to these individuals: Jake, Pete, Tommy, Jesse, Sheezy, James, Robert, Micheal H., SBC, Carl, Greg, Darrald, Cedric I, Cedric II, Courtney M. and Steven S. These are the individuals that have my back NO MATTER what they have going on in their lives. I was very disrespectful to you and your family with my post. I already know you guys are gonna say stop apologizing, NO. Just like I felt the need to express myself, this is needed. There are many more, but these are the people that I can have a respectful conversation with regarding College Football. 

Instead using my facebook timeline to embarrass myself and look like an asshole, I will conduct another self check and single those individuals that are disrespecting me in a message to them and delete them. I won’t let individuals dictate how I act. I’m a better man with better character than immaturity such as this.


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I know that I have said it a million and one times that I don’t like talking about politics, but why in the world is there still an MF’in government shutdown? The issue has something to do with Obamacare. How about you, Mr. President and Members of Congress let the American People vote on what type of health care we want. The President and everyone that is a Member of Congress has their own agenda. Instead of composing a crap load of nonsense with what you think the American People want how about you try this and let us as Americans, the REGULARS vote on what we want. We can vote for our own damn president and the individuals in congress, so why can’t we vote on what type of health care we want?

You know why? It’s because they don’t care. If our government was run the way it was meant to be, we would not be in the bad shape we are in at this very moment. There wouldn’t be furloughs, budget cuts, reducing the size of the military and bickering amongst the members of congress because everyone can’t agree on an issue that I think should ultimately be left up to the people who are going to be affected by it. Those people that are supposed to be our leaders were voted in and I think we as American, REGULARS, should be able to vote them out. I know some of you are asking the question, what is that going to fix? That’s a great question, the answer is, it won’t fix anything, but I’m pretty confident in saying that if we as Americans, REGULARS, were able to vote on this issue then we wouldn’t have a government shutdown.

People that are in the positions their in right now, I’m talking about the Members of Congress and our Commander in Chief, said all the right things to be voted in. I say let America vote on what WE want. I briefly scanned over an article on CNN.com about the rates of this “affordable” health care and it is definitely not that. Middle and Lower class Americans are going to be hurting with the deductibles and if you don’t pay for this health care, you will be penalized by the government. They plan on penalizing you by taking a portion or your whole tax refund. How is that helping America? They can use all the big words they want and bicker back and forth about it, but it does nothing for the American People.

When our Commander in Chief was running for president in 2008 he talked about “Change”, I believe that we do need change, but with America in the shape that it is, the maybe we need to “Change” the so-called Leaders that work in Washington, D.C. While there are many civilians that haven’t returned to their government jobs, what are they supposed to do when it’s time for them to pay their mortgage or car payment? I’m sure the company that financed the civilians isn’t going to want to hear, I didn’t get  paid because the government is shutdown. There are some companies and corporations that are looking out for their members by letting your mortgage or car payment be late or they are willing to work with you until our government finally pulls their heads out of their 4th point of contact. It is time for Change and maybe that change needs to start at the top. Of course, every American isn’t going to agree, but I’m sure if we had a chance to vote on what we wanted, the majority would get it right.

I’m not going to continue going on about this whole government shutdown because it is starting to become that pesky little gnat or mosquito buzzing in your ear. Mr. President and Members of Congress we can do better, but its because of you, we are where we are now. As I stated before in a previous post about the government shutdown that for the sake of the civilians that aren’t getting paid, I hope that they will soon agree or agree to disagree and get back to business at hand. There are far more important issues going on in America than shutting down the government for a disagreement about health care. We are still fighting a war on terrorism abroad and we have members of the military paying the ultimate sacrifice, but there has to be a shutdown for health care. That is unacceptable.



Before my Blog gets long and complicated, I think it’s only fair that I open up more about myself. There are many topics that I could talk about, but today I feel like telling the world more about ME. I won’t get all sappy and sad. I’ll get right down to the “nitty-gritty”. 

I don’t consider myself an “African-American”. I consider myself a “Black-American”.  Why you may ask? I was born in the United States which is on the continent of North America. I’m confident that if I conduct research of my lineage, I will find that I have relatives that originated from Africa, as well as other countries, who were brought to the United States of America due to the slave trade and other ventures. I am not denying my ancestry or trying to get into a race debate about my lineage, it’s just that in today’s society I think it’s unfair that Black-Americans continue to call themselves African. Let’s look at the president. President Barack Obama is an African-American. His father is from Africa and his mother is from the United States. I have a cousin that has a father that is from Africa and her mother, my Aunt is from the United States. Do I consider my cousin to be African-American, yes I do. 

I identify myself with my country of origin and not the continent of my ancestry. I am proud of my lineage and african ancestors. I’ve studied and heard stories from Black Americans about the struggles and sacrifices they endured during slavery and the Civil Rights Era and I am proud of the progress and accomplishments that have come from that. I want you, the reader, to understand that I, Jared Gober am not denouncing my race, ancestors or trying to spark a debate. All I am trying to do is paint a picture for you, the reader, on why I feel that I am a Black-American rather than an African-American. I know this subject is going to upset and make a lot of readers angry, but instead of being upset and angered, sit back and honestly ask yourself what I said that angered you? If you feel that I angered you in any way, please forward all your questions and comments to me. I am open to any questions, comments or conversations that you would like to have.

Please understand that these words are from ME and ME alone. I don’t claim to speak for or represent Black-Americans across the United States regarding this subject. These are MY words.