We are now at the point of the year to celebrate the holidays. People become generous, start handing out money, secret santa’s and all that good stuff. Why does it take a specific time of year for individuals to have compassion for their fellow man? Why does it take bringing in a New Year for you to make a promise to yourself or friends/family of something that you want to do better? Why wait when you can do it RIGHT NOW?

We have become so used to doing this, because that’s what everybody else does. People say all the time that they aren’t doing or making the resolution for anyone but themselves, if that were true, wouldn’t you start as soon as you saw a change needed to be made, instead of waiting for a New Year? I have fallen victim to the “New Years Resolution” and have not followed through with a certain resolution, because it’s so easy to quit. When it starts getting hard and you have to start using self discipline it becomes so easy to quit and make excuses for yourself. I know that I’m not alone, but I am a person that isn’t afraid to admit it. I did the same thing in previous years also. It’s crazy when you sit back and think about the promise “resolution” that you made to yourself and what the circumstances as to why you did not follow through. Everybody does the same thing. Why wait?

When you wait, you are only setting yourself up for failure, because you are giving yourself days, weeks or even months time to come up with excuses. It’s easy to say that I will do it next year. It’s hard to say, that I will do it now. It doesn’t have to be something major, start off small. If you are able to keep that promise to yourself then go big. It’s ultimately up to you and how strong you are mentally. That’s why I say start small. If you are trying to quit smoking, surround yourself around people that don’t smoke or that won’t tempt you to smoke, so you are able to keep that promise. You can’t do it all by yourself, you need a support system that will make you hold up your end of the bargain. It’s not going to be easy, but you have to stick it through. If it were easy, then everybody would be doing it. I made a promise, resolution to myself a couple of weeks ago, I said that I WILL lose 30 pounds within the next 3 months. There was no way in the world that I could wait until the New Year, because the only thing I am doing is allowing myself to be a pig and gain more weight that will be harder to get rid of.

I have a great support system. I have 3 women who make sure that I am doing the right thing. A resolution that I made to myself that NO ONE knows about is that I promised myself that I would not drink any alcohol whatsoever. I can say that since making that promise to myself I haven’t had an alcoholic beverage since the beginning of October. I wasn’t a raging alcoholic, I would call myself a social drinker or my close friends would call me an extreme lightweight. I have no clue what triggered it, but I just lost the taste for alcohol. Instead of enjoying the taste for a cold beer, all it did was give me a headache and it was impossible for me to enjoy it. The smell and taste made me sick to my stomach, that made it easier for me to keep my promise. I have another resolution that I will make, but in the near future, eventually I want to stop dipping. I enjoy it, that’s why I am not ready to make that resolution yet. I hear it all the time how bad it is and how my face is going to fall off, but I’m a grown man and I made the decision to start and I will make the decision to stop doing it.

The point I am trying to make is don’t wait to make a change, do it now. You don’t know if you will even make it to see tomorrow, let alone the New Year. Take it one day at a time. Set yourself up for success, but surrounding yourself with positive individuals and those that want to see you make a change for the better. It’s not going to be an easy road, but stick to it. You can do it. Be positive and think positive thoughts, don’t let so-called friends and family get you down. If you put out positive energy, you’ll get positive energy and positive results in the end.

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Last week was a really bad week for me and my family mentally and emotionally. It got to the point that I felt numb and didn’t want to do anything. Feeling depressed is not a good feeling. I am doing better today. With all that has happened to me, I will do my best to make this post amusing, but it will be the truth. Alright, lets give it a try.

Hi, my name is Jared and I have a problem. I am an addict. I am addicted to Sprite. I really don’t know when it started, but before I started this Sprite addiction, I didn’t care what type of carbonated drink I drank. It’s to the point now that if I get up in the middle of the night and go to the refrigerator and there isn’t one in there, I am willing to drive 8 miles down the road to get a 20 oz. that costs $1.69! Crazy right? It gets better. One day my wife asked me to go to IGA, a small supermarket in our large metropolis of a city. I walked in and the first thing I see is a 1.25 liter Sprite for 88 cents. Man I thought I was going to lose my mind. I was like I’m paying damn near $2.00 for 20 ounces when there is a 42.2 ounce drink out there for 88 cents? Man, I wanted to jump out of my body and slap myself!

I bought 8 of them and whatever my wife sent me to the store for. I don’t know what’s going on now, the price went up to 99 cents now, but hey it’s still a damn deal. I know you are reading this and thinking that if you’re an addict then you would do anything to have a Sprite, umm that’s a muthafuckin big ass NEGATIVE! I will not sacrifice my integrity or my morals for a damn soda or pop for the Yankees out there. I just really like to drink it. The thing that sucks is, it’s so big that if I’m at a stop light and I want to take a sip, I get strange looks, but I don’t care. I just give them a friendly smile. Another disadvantage to the 42.2 ounce drink is that it gets warm quick. I ain’t drinking a warm sprite homie. I do my best to drink it, but I’m not going to sit there and drink a sprite all day. I can’t especially with coaching. I have to stay hydrated with some good ol’ H2O.

In the case that a sprite gets warm I either put it back in the refrigerator and get a new one or pour it out. What’s weird is that if I don’t have an Un-opened Sprite, it’s hard for me to drink the one that I put back in the refrigerator because it just doesn’t have the fizz I like. Weird Right? I know. It’s all good though. I have recognized that I have a problem and right now I don’t want to stop drinking this delicious drink. The other day, I tried to drink a Coke and I couldn’t do it. I realize that Sprite is a product of The Coca-Cola Company, but I would much rather have a Sprite over a Coke. Don’t get me wrong I know that I shouldn’t be drinking soda all the time, I know I get it. I hear it from 3 wonderful ladies I live with so I don’t need to hear it here.

I am going to organize a S.A.M. (Sprite Anonymous Meeting) here in the near future. If you also have a Sprite addiction, you are welcomed to attend. Here is the S.A.M. Pledge:

I, Jared Gober (Insert Your Name Here) will do my best to take it one day at a time to get through this addiction. I am not afraid to say that I have a problem. I will do whatever I need to do to rid myself of this addiction. I am Responsible When Anyone, Anywhere Reaches Our For Help I Want The Hand of S.A.M. to Always Be There. And For That I Am Responsible!

Okay, let me address this issue, because I know some of you will not find this funny because there are people out there that have addictions that can kill them. I AM IN NO WAY POKING FUN AT THEM OR ANY OTHER ORGANIZATION OF THAT SORT. People please realize that this is just for me to get a laugh and get my mind off of the problems that I am dealing with. If you can’t understand that then you really need to stop reading my blogs or get some help yourself. This is my Blog, so I can write about what the hell I want, but sometimes people take things too far or out of context. If you think you fit in that category, then go else where and take your shoes off and walk over broken glass and roll around in hot coals.

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